What to do When a Girl Flakes & Why Girls Flake

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I decided to write an article about flakey girls after reading the generally accepted advice given to guys who get flaked on. My ideas about girls who flake are a bit different than typically described by other dating experts or PUAs. Because it breaks the norm, men are less receptive to it. I personally believe all women remain viable options for a period of time, even if they’ve flaked. Flakes can become a girlfriend or a sexual partner, tossing a potential option away isn’t something I think needs to be done immediately. Some (many) experts believe a second chance for a flake is a cardinal sin of dating, but that definitely shouldn’t be considered the only ideology. If you want to give a flake another chance or want to know how to handle a flake, then this article will help. Hopefully this will re-shape how you think about girls that flake on you, as well as realizing the importance of your social perception. Despite the seemingly popular opinion, it is not a bad thing to give a flakey girl a second chance, and there should be content available for men who do want to give a girl another chance at a date.

Why Women Flake

Very briefly there are many reasons that women flake. There are a few chief reasons among them, being a test, legitimate plan change, anxiety or disinterest.

Test: Women want to know you can handle a usually frustrating situation with ease. They want to know you’re a man who could care less what she does. That you have so much stuff going on that a girl who flakes is the least of your problems. Aside from seeing if you can compose yourself, women also test guys by flaking and going out with her friends instead. Some guys might take this personally, but they shouldn’t. Hot girls are all about their friends, and (they pretend) men come second. If a guy can’t handle her going out and about at the beginning he sure won’t be able to do it when he’s attached down the line. This is a common test, if a guy’s getting insecure about her going out now, he certainly will down the road. That’s why playing it cool is essential. Women don’t want guys who are going to tie them down or control them because of insecurity.

Legitimate Plans: A majority of times I’ve personally been flaked on, have been by girls who really had something come up. If you have plans for Friday night during the summer, and during the day a girl’s family decides to throw a huge barbecue for the entire family, she might have/want to stay at home for the evening instead and be with her family. Since you’re just starting out she shouldn’t be expected to invite you to a big family event, without even having a couple of dates yet. This is the primary reason I think running away from a flake is a big mistake, a girl may be interested and just had new plans come up that she’d be unable to avoid. Sure, you had plans and it’s definitely rude that she bailed on you, but there’s no real reason to take a legitimate flaking personally.

Here’s a hypothetical to further explain the above scenario: The girl bails on you for this family barbecue. What you don’t know is she just graduated with a Master’s degree, that her parents paid for in full, including her prior Bachelor’s degree. They’ve supported her and tossed $300,000 on her education. This girl may really, really like you, she might be distraught to bail on you, but after he family just put the cost of the average house on her education she feels obligated to have a night with her family. Isn’t it ridiculously silly to take that situation personally and potentially flip out or toss an option away over something understandable? Rational people may be saying “of course” right now, but there are dating experts and people who believe flaking is unforgivable. I don’t believe that to be the case.

Anxiety: Men often get the jitters before a first date, why then, is it so hard to believe that women can become so jittery they bail at the last second? Women are a lot more emotional than men, so being overcome with nervousness shouldn’t be surprising for anyone familiar with how women work. It’s possible a woman wants to become more comfortable through conversations or low-pressure situations before heading out on a “hot and heavy” first date. This is especially true when a man can be intimidating. Sure the intimidating nature might draw the woman in, but many women like to know you’re willing to invest emotionally as well, before going on a date.

Disinterest: Instead of telling you straight up she’s not interested, she’ll keep bailing on you until you take the hint. Somehow, flakes think it’s less damaging to accept dates and then bail on them, instead of denying the guy in the first place. That’s not the right way to go about things, but unfortunately, women do it. This is the reason why “the experts” are so keen on hating flakes, they think all women who flake fall under this category. Many may fall under this category, possibly even a majority may be genuinely disinterested. There’s really no way to know unless she says it directly. To assume it is disinterest is too pessimistic.

Other Reasons: Based on personal experiences and both male and female friend experiences, those are the main reasons I have noticed that women flake. Of course this isn’t a full list, there is way too many options that could be going on. Something as simple as a girl likes playing games or got back with her boyfriend can happen as well. The point is to not always take it personally and realize there are legitimate and excusable reasons that a woman may flake early on in the dating process.

The Key is Being Persistent

And there it is, the line that sends some guys into a frenzy. Now you could be baffled at why I’m saying this. That seems to be the trend when I say to be persistent. Most guys, dating experts, and PUAs tell men to run for the hills, to put the ball in the girls court, or even worse give ultimatums. None of these things are the actions of an alpha male. What it means to be persistent is to try again with the girl. Don’t be discouraged if she flakes, it’s a common occurrence. The method at the end of this article will clarify what persistence really means when it comes to girls who flake. I will say in advance it doesn’t mean to become overbearing and creepily relentless. Persistence is mainly about keeping a girl you may connect with around because she could have had an excusable reason to flake. Even if %99.9 of flakes are disinterested, it’s not a requirement to run away immediately.

The Problem with Giving Up

The issue with running away or putting the ball in her court is that you’re going to lose her as an option. Losing her shouldn’t matter, but why not retain as many options as possible? Many hot girls flake, that’s how it is, and if you run every time a girl flakes, you’ll be missing out on very attractive partners based on anger and a wounded ego. The way you handle a flake is something that could potentially harm your social perception and it’s also possible to overcome an initial flake as well. There’s too much going on to just go forget it when experimenting and being a little persistent should be encouraged. Here’s a horrible suggestion I’ve seen on how to handle a flake: “Tell her you’re giving her another chance and if not you’re done with her” Since when is it a thing for alpha males to threaten women? That’s the last kind of person who should be giving dating advice, it’s not going to work and you sound like a major crybaby that she bounced on your date. Ultimatums are never a good look for a guy, any suggestion of “do this or this will happen” is scary, don’t go there. Ultimatums should be reserved for a serious situation, not because a girl had something to do or decided to pass on a date.

What To Do if a Girl Flakes (If You Give Her a Another Chance)

Step 1: Now with the background out of the way, here’s the actual method to handle a flake (with an example) Let’s say you meet a woman and make plans with her for Friday. For some reason or another she bails on these plans last minute. You’re obviously pissed off internally but that shouldn’t be brought outward or onto her. She gives you some excuse before your planned date, earlier on Friday afternoon, that her girlfriends invited her to the club and she can’t ditch them. In return you’re going to respond back with something like “alright no big deal, have a good time I’ll see you another night.” The reason behind this response (instead of flipping out) is that it can ruin how people perceive you. Women talk, and becoming an obsessive guy who went crazy over a flake is going to get around. By handling it like you don’t care, you’re showing this woman that she isn’t the only thing you have. You have so many options that you’re going out with your friends or meeting up with a different girl. Pretend for a second, you legitimately do have an equally hot (or hotter) woman to invite over that night. Do you care then, at all, that this other girl bailed on you? Odds are you may be a little salty but by the end of the night you won’t even remember. Therein lies the problem with running away or giving ultimatums. A man with options would never do those things. If you want any chance with this girl it needs to be handled like a man and not like it meant the world and you were devastated that she flaked. Nope, you found something better to do.

Step 2: Sticking with this “Friday night” example, you’d text her the next day or on Sunday asking how her night went. As though nothing happened, you had such a good time it was a blessing she flaked on you. She’ll tell you how her night went and in return, since she’ll probably ask, you had a great night too. Your friend ended up having a huge party at his house and some girl almost puked on you, or you won a bunch of beer pong games with one of your boys and everyone was having a great time. Enter some story about how you had a fun time like I just did, but be sure not to brag or make it obvious you’re salty about the flake. The fact she flaked shouldn’t even be apparent, take it with a grain of salt. By doing this you’ve re-established yourself as a guy with a lot of options. She’s going to feel attracted to you that you didn’t care that she flaked. If a girl flakes on you, it was either legitimate or she does it to everyone. Girls who flake without a real reason don’t just do it once, they’re serial flakers, this is how they roll. By using this method you’re setting yourself apart from the group of guys she does this to all the time.

Final Step: Ask her for a hangout again a day or two after the initial flake, something casual. Sometimes girls flake because you offered to take her out on a boat in Venice on night one. Keep it simple and friendly, so things can “just happen” instead of being forced. Being too serious is another popular reason women flake. Now this time she might flake again. It’s possible you have a major flake on your hands or she’s genuinely not interested. Either way, whenever you want to give up (I say 2 flakes at maximum, that’s too much), do it similar to the way you handled the first flake. A little less storytelling if it happens again, but it’s important to stay grounded and let it roll off of you. Flipping out, giving ultimatums, or leaving it in her court is a baby way to handle a flake. Even if you are done with this girl it needs to be handled in the same calm manner as you did originally. By handling it in a way that shows you don’t care, you retain your appearance as an alpha male. This becomes less about her and all about you.

Leaving a flake with the ball in your own court and without being whiny keeps you looking good. There are three possible ways this goes from there: 1. She comes around after the first flake (or a second flake just because she was so baffled how you handled things the first time and wants to test again.) When girls flake, guys go absolutely bonkers. They do what the guys on advice forums suggest, they made it a travesty that she flaked, when in reality IT’S NOT A BIG DEAL. Doing things differently will set you apart. 2. She flakes until you finally cut off contact with her (but not with threats, just become less receptive to her, never bitter.) It’s possible a week or two down the line she’ll see you were really different than other guys. By then she’ll have flaked on ten more guys and she might feel a boost of attraction based on your lack of neediness. If she comes crawling back it’s up to you how to handle it, but it should be game time from then on. If she then flakes again after crawling back, she isn’t even worth any future contact calm or otherwise. Delete her number and move on. 3. Things dissolve and she was nothing more than a flake looking for an ego boost or to have another guy begging for her attention. It’s fine if this happens because at least you didn’t beg or whine, she didn’t get what she wanted. You stayed a man and true to yourself and she missed out. Sooner or later she’ll probably realize that too.

The Impact on Social Perception

It’s possible you run into girls who flake again or a friend of hers down the line and because of how you handled the particular flaking, you left this girl with absolutely no ammo. NEVER give a woman a reason to tarnish your reputation or question your manhood. Giving ultimatums or giving her a “last chance” or berating her, gives her exactly what she wants and can ruin a social perception about you as well. If you meet a flakes friend eventually (it’s a small world, it can happen) which would you prefer the original flake say:

1. We talked a few months ago. I ended up being busy when we were gonna go out but he was cool about it and ended up doing his own thing. We lost contact but he was chill when I had stuff to do.

OR

2. We were supposed to go out but I ended up having to go out with my friends/family instead for _______ reason. He started flipping out on me and cursing me out telling me I had to go out with him the next day or it was over. I don’t know why he acted this way, I really had something to do! He wasn’t understanding at all, we weren’t even dating yet!

Clearly option #1 is a lot better look. Handling things without putting too much stock into them doesn’t just apply to flakes, it applies to girls in general. Never worry about what she does, busy men have alternatives and they make it clear through body language and behavior that they aren’t affected by anything a particular woman does. Remember, if you don’t want to give a flake a second chance then don’t, BUT it shouldn’t be a requirement to just drop a girl because she flaked. Sometimes women actually have a real reason for not showing up, imagine that? Giving someone a second or even third chance, as long as it’s done out of fun and learning (not because of the absolute need to be with this girl), then it’s OK. Being persistent and immune to flaking/games is a positive attribute. A girls flaking or games is just an average part of your day, that have no consequence on how great of a night you’re going to have. Games and tests will always be present, it’s how you handle them that matters. Running away or allowing someone to get an emotional rise out of you isn’t the way to handle any situation. Those mindsets will lead to much more success with women and in general.

  • http://gravatar.com/spandaniel Mightyspan

    Why on earth would I give a flake another chance? I don’t have to be salty about it, sure, but there are so many women out there I’m better off pursuing them instead of the flake.

    And if I’m really lucky (provided I still care about being flaked on) the flake will see me with other girls having a great time and my social value will climb exponentially with her such that I will get more attention.

    • Frop

      Because, if your ego isn’t fragile, it costs you nothing but a few seconds of texting to have a second chance.

    • brian

      That’s what he was saying,you don’t have to pursue her because you do have other options but there is no reason to over react to her flaking is the whole point. She will either eventually hang out or she won’t but at least your manhood and reputation stay positive regardless of what she does

  • Snap

    I believe everyone deserves a second chance (if their excuse sounds legit and makes sense.) But, I know personally, as a woman, that if I am truly interested in someone I will make the time and effort to show up to see that person. If I find myself flaking on someone, I know my interest wasn’t that deep to begin with– and the man should move on.

  • King

    Hell naw, look at this nigga. ^^^^ You look like Fat Albert with that bullshit. This article is spot on. The author is speaking on the level of real men, not men “dating” to boost their ego or get over heartbreak.

  • Ihateflakes

    You make really solid points. And results-wise, you’re completely right. However, I have a personal issue that I need to work on and that is my short temper, especially targeted towards bullshit.

    When I give someone my word on hanging out with them, I follow through. I expect anyone with decency to do the same. That is why I get extremely, extremely angered at women when they flake. But I need to change this obviously… great post and I will be exploring your website for sure.

  • John

    Great advice.. I’ve been keeping my options open when women flake, and had opportunities that I wouldn’t have had if I just got angry and shut them off right away. Good to see someone else with the same view!

  • AnonymousAAAAA

    Man, you are too forgiving – many women (be it 20, 25, 30) flake just because they can and give bs reason.

    Ask her – she flakes – reply ‘cool’ – give her two days silence – start chatting for a few days – ask again – she flakes – drop her

    Don’t delete her no, but stop talking to her. It’s not about being alpha – it’s just about her being decent human being.

    You have about 2 weeks window after metting her – if she’s not coming during that time, she’s not worth your time.

  • Kick

    I’ve never been flaked on before this past weekend. We had plans but and when I called to see where I was going to pick her up she said hold on she’d call me back. Never heard anything so the next days I’m chilling with my friends and one asks what’s up with ole girl. I tell him she never called me back and I didn’t want to blow her up and he told me I should at least text her and see what was up. I did and she said we were still going out, once again I asked where I was picking her up from. She said she was at the salon and would call me when she got done. Never called so I took the hint but we work together so I knew I’d have to deal with this face to face this morning. I get to work and she acts like I screwed up not calling her, said she waited for me all night. I’m positive she’s lying but I read this article and the part about it being a test and played it off like shit you said you’d call me and I ain’t gonna blow you up. But now she wants to do lunch next off day we have. Figured I’d try again like the article said though.

    • DailyManliness

      What happened with this? It seems like you played it right not letting it bother you though which was better for you

  • Cool

    Whenever I’m at bars and clubs, girls flake because they would rather hang with a drug abusing loser playing in a hardcore metal band or hang with a talentless DJ iPod who just clicks buttons on his computer.

    • DailyManliness

      And all of these “horrible people” you are describing have options and act that way, it’s as simple as that.

    • “alpha male” hahahahaha

      your bitter and desperate and it shows.

  • Paul

    After a few meetings at a local shop where she worked, I hinted her attraction level was high, thus while I had her write down her number, I instantly asked her out that same day which she immediately agreed. I was about 30 minutes late that evening, took her to 3 different places, had a lovely dinner where she was amazed by my magic tricks and the people being very nice to me (I usually took my dates there, that’s why), and sent her to her friend’s house by 11:30 pm where she had sleep-over plans originally. I saw her friend giggling by the gate while she got off the car, one reason I found it awkward to kiss her.. the date lasted for about 5 hours.

    Texted her the next morning then initiated contact after a week through text. With her “Hiii” and “niceee” replies, I reckon she was excited to hear from me and even enjoyed reading the book I’d lent her. But after 3 exchanges, we went no further. She could be busy from work, I thought. That afternoon I texted her if she could join with me the next day for an exciting trip to the place we talked about during our date. I knew this was a long shot since she’s got work, but I was kind of testing her attraction level. Then I got no reply.

    I texted her the day after that I hadn’t heard from her so I went on but would just make it up to her next time. I just didn’t mention that I proceeded still but with another girl I have been hooking up with for sometime – ’twas the same girl I hooked up hours prior to our first date (sorry, I had to), the reason I was late. ‘Twas the same girl she had mentioned on our date which she once saw with me in my car when I went to the shop.

    I radio-silenced her, I was also busy. After two weeks she texted that she’d already finished reading the book. With a smile I thought, yep that’s the signal! So I called her the next morning and arranged for a definite date. And yes, I made it textbook clear, even jokingly repeated to her the details of the pick-up. She sounded very excited and kept asking me where we were going as I told her to bring her fave head cap and sunglasses. The second date was set for the next 7 days.

    I religiously obeyed the suggested “no text, no call” rule to build up more attraction and excitement, so I thought. Then came the day. I waited at the supposed rendezvous… and you guessed it right, a flake! And to add more injury – a no show, no text, no call! I called but no answer, so I left 2 polite text messages later which included the phrases “sorry, we missed each other”, “don’t worry” and “take care”, hoping she’d interpret as “Oh, well.. moving on” and might see me as more valuable. But nothing happened.

    Ceased all communication, whatsoever. After a few weeks I learnt that she had been with her friends on vacation the day when we were supposed to meet – her Instagram revealed. She’s 19, well-figured, beautiful, deep-thought working student majoring in architecture, a social media icon with numerous admirers. I’m in my 30’s, not bad looking, in good shape, with a ‘busy’ career.

    I’m just learning these dating principles since back then I did everything old school without the knowledge. I dated quality women successfully and unsuccessfully – just later realized that even I had been successful to some, mostly my actions had been so needy!

    Looking back at the following methods I used:
    1st attempt: Personal – successful (first date)
    2nd attempt: Text – no response (but the invite I made was untimely)
    3rd attempt: Phone call – she was excited but flaked.

    Was she really excited though? Has she lost attraction?
    Was the invite (bring head cap and eyeglasses) too much of pressure?
    As it took 7 days waiting, should I have contacted her in between?
    Should I have picked her up at her house instead of meeting at a place?

    I still have to get the book… Any advice?

    • DailyManliness

      My advice on this is going to run counter to most dating advice gurus, so do what you think works best but I’ll throw in my comments for you and other readers. I think the thing that was the biggest mistake was setting up a date so far away and also having no contact with her. 7 days without talking to someone means they’re no one to you, I’m curious if she said anything to you during that week because that would be a signal. I’ve never been with a girl who would be “fine with” no talking for a week. If a woman is attracted and more importantly invested in you, then she will want to talk to you. The guys job is to have her invested. Attraction is only part of the battle, a woman can think a guy is hot and want him badly but then forget about him the next second, but the more time and energy she puts into you the more she wants you. You may like watching a certain stock, but it means more if you have money in it. I’ll write something on this in the near future so stay tuned, but for now I think that’s a good description of what happened here. She may have been attracted but was not invested, which honestly is great for you, attraction is difficult so you won most of the battle. Let’s also be fair here though, a vacation isn’t something she’s going to skip for you

    • “alpha male” hahahahaha

      shes not into you. If she was she would have shown up.

  • caughy

    I had a gal flake on me and told me that she had me confused with another guy. I let her know how I felt. I gave her another chance and she put me into the friend zone afterwards. 6 weeks later, she calls me and tells me that she missed our relationship and wanted us to spend time together. Guess what, she flaked on me again. Then she got back with her ex boyfriend, a piece of shit who had left her four months earlier. I will never be played again by pieces of shit like this fucking bitch.

    • DailyManliness

      A few things to note here 1. “I let her know how I felt”..I never let a woman know how I feel (if feelings are involved) until after she expresses her feelings, sometimes for even quite awhile. Love needs to be shown by her first and expressed by her first, once you do it first you’re chasing and she knows she has you. 2. I’m guessing after that period apart from each other you immediately accepted her request for her a date, it was good she came back, but you needed to be more nonchalant this time, and tell her you had plans already and start treating her like any other girl, even “friendzoning” her. Jumping right back on again showed her she had you again. 3. The severity of your comments there with cursing show how invested you are/were in this girl, if I can tell by your comments she can tell in person. She’s not a fucking bitch, you made a few errors here. Which brings me to some lessons about your situation that hopefully help you and others (which is why I respond to posts, to further the learning experience), don’t ever bash an ex-boyfriend or other guys, they’re irrelevant. I don’t know if you’re just doing that here, but my article on friendzoning may also help with this. Also, she didn’t really play you, you made a few mistakes and gave her control, it really was as simple as that. It’s a great learning experience so it doesn’t happen again in the future.

      • caughy

        In retrospect, I am not angry anymore. I wish her the best with her ex-boyfriend. I have no contact with her anymore, even on Facebook. I realize now that I would have been the rebound relationship for her and the outcome most likely would have been the same with the ex-boyfriend. I see a gal now where no games or tests are taking place. But you’re right, sometimes new relationships are about controlling emotions and expectations. But games should be left on the playground.

  • Real nikka 420

    Women flake because they are peices of shit. They stirng you along for a few days then right before you meet up they ghost you.

    You have to message and make plans with as many women as possible because of this.

    The worst is when bitches play games and make you wait all day for a text back. Like bitch wtf are you doing that you cant text me back in 10 mins or less.

    Fucking skansk bruh

    • DailyManliness

      It’s just the nature of the game now to illicit an emotional response very similar to the one you’re having now. The thing is, when you have multiple women saying “yes” you automatically have an abundance mentality, so you don’t get emotional about flaking. The cooler you are with delayed responses and flakes the more likely they won’t keep doing that. It’s counter intuitive, but it’s supposed to make you mad and the second you get mad they believe/know they have control over you.

      • Real nikka 420

        But i never show that im mad they still ghost me. I think bitches have nothing better todo then talk to you for days and then diss you. Which is sad really like aren’t you wasting your own time as much as mine?

        Women dont have any hobbies

        • DailyManliness

          That’s exactly it, the “hobby” of women is drama. With friends or with men, especially with men. Everything they do is for an emotional reaction.

        • “alpha male” hahahahaha

          you obviously dont have the quality’s these women you are pursuing are looking for. You ask them out and women are to “nice” to say no. You are seen as a friend and that’s it. She is just not into you. Dont make plans just let things happen naturally and go in for the “non friend” activities right away. I go out, meet a girl and if were hitting it off i go in for a kiss then make plans to meet again. The night I meet them and kiss is what I consider the first date. I dont go “we should hang out sometime” and get a number because we are already hanging out. I almost never get turned away because I know the signs to look for before I go in for the kiss. it usually ends with us going home together. Our culture is a “hook up” culture now. After that she will only flake if you are a lousy kisser or dont fuck her right. Women like confidence in a man and just moving in for the kiss takes confidence.

  • jamal

    I asked her out and set the date 2 days advance. Then I postponed the date after 3 days and scheduled it 7 days/1 week from the day that I postponed the date. After that, I have not been consistent with maintaining casual contact. Then the day before the date, she cancelled because she had some family matter to attend to. I texted her that it was fine then offered to reschedule. A day has passed and I haven’t received any response from her. What should I do? I really like this girl.

    • DailyManliness

      Sometimes when scheduling a date too far in advance isn’t working, it’s easier to just continue talking and make it more of a “random” thing. You could ask “are you free tonight?” then give a plan, being a little more aggressive fits my personality more so I just say something casual like what time do you work til tonight? Then “I’ll see you at (30 minutes after they get off) so we can get dinner” or something like that. I mix it up, sometimes I’ll ask if they’re free, give them a time, and I do try to get dates in advance too. It’s what you feel comfortable with and how you feel about the girl. If you don’t want to give up you can try any of those things, including trying to plan a date in advance again. Just remember to keep it cool and casual now and not get obsessive

  • “alpha male” hahahahaha

    you are really pathetic. If a woman wants you she will show up unless something real did happen at the last minute. But most often it is you who are the the reason a girl flakes. She does not like you. Never believe the its not you its me line because it is you. Or the Im not wanting to date or see anyone now line. Again she just does not want to see or date you. If the right guy came along she would want to date him. Just move on. The advice of acting cool and giving a second chance is good because as I said, it could of been for a legit reason. Most of you reek of desperation and that is your problem and the reason you are alone. Persistence is desperation; again, move on. If she wants you and the flake was for a real legit reason she will make plans to reschedule without you hounding her. Also shut the fuck up about being an “alpha male”. That shows you are a cocky shit and will also ensure you are alone. You have built a fake persona which make you look like a douche. Your fake persona is obvious because you make you lies about how your night was great even though you were stood up. It also makes it obvious that you cant stand on your own two feet and judge your worth based on what women think of you. That is not “alpha”. Your constant use of the word hot also shows that you have no real confidence and have low self esteem. You need a hot woman to prop you up. Just needing a woman in general to feed your self perception is pathetic enough but your especially douchey and need a trophy to show the world how alpha you are. Confidence not cockiness is key and it is obvious to me and to women that you lack in that department. It is also obvious that you get flaked on A LOT by the fact you even wrote this crap. Being flaked on is not a constant problem for most men. I let women pursue me and that way i know they are interested. Just be cool, confident, know how to talk to women (making them laugh is key in that dept,), have something to offer (not an unmeployed slacker), be successful and have shit going on in your life women will pursue you too.

    • DailyManliness

      A self-aggrandizing manifesto written on Saturday of Memorial Day Weekend, what a rockstar. Please break down my sarcasm and stoicism here and how, that too, is a turn off for women. I’m sure we would all love to hear what you have to say.

      Fun side note for my readers: When you have someone who attempts to discredit you and especially does so at length as seen here, less is more. As is the case here, always be the Captain who knows what he’s saying is true and is just dealing with someone who has an outside agenda. I’d bet anything this is a lonely bored guy who has never talked to a woman before or possibly even a woman. What I propose in my piece here creates abundance, abundance creates options, if you “toy with”, “play with”, “experiment on”, and “game” your flakes you can cultivate even more women. This character is right about one thing, women should not be flaking. But if you have 150 women, 17 flake, and those 17 have legitimate reasons and/or are game players, why not keep them around as well? I’d rather mess around with another 17 women than crying and running away from them. I’m sure men who read this will be able to see the logic in that.